Why is it considered a bad thing for people over 21 to still be living with their parent(s)?

Why is it in the U.S. it's considered a bad thing for someone over 21 to be living with their parents when in many other countries like in India, most people live with their parents until they get married and start having kids of their own, sometimes when they reach their 30's.Why is it considered a bad thing for people over 21 to still be living with their parent(s)?
It is considered a bad thing for people over 21 living with their folks because young adults, 18 to their early twenties, are suppose to be independent.


I used be a creative writing major at San Francisco State University.


The college I attended was a commuter school.


Many SF State students lived in the campus dorms or in the apartments by the school.


They were ONLY able to live in the dorms or in the apartments by the campus because they had rich folks.


Those students may look at themselves as ';rich'; but they're actually free-loaders, poor and spoiled.


I had to stay at my folks home since I was born was raised in San Francisco.


My folks did not want to apply to another college besides SF State.


Currently, many college graduates right now are unemployed and are living with their folks again.


What's embarrassing is people being kicked out of their folks home or having to move back into their folks home after blowing a lot of money (earned from their jobs or overspending with their credit cards).


It's bad if a young person lives with their folks and does not bother to work, help out with chores (cleaning, cooking), selfish (buying groceries for him or herself) and is ungrateful.


My eldest sister lived with my folks until she was 29.


They never made her pay rent.


My parents paid for her full tuition at San Francisco State along with her textbooks.


She ONLY bought groceries for herself and rarely did any cleaning in the house.


When she was moving out, she never said, ';Thank you'; to my parents.


I have two male cousins on my father's side that have never bothered to find jobs. They are both in their late twenties.


I don't look down at people that are over 21 as failures for living with their folks if they have trouble making ends meet with one job or have trouble looking for a job.


I hope that this helps and take care of yourself. I mean this. ~ AlanWhy is it considered a bad thing for people over 21 to still be living with their parent(s)?
Americans strongly believe in being an individual. Not that being an individual is bad, its just they think that also means being able to support themselves completely. How many forefather's stories have you heard about ';my great grandfather came to this country with nothing but the clothes on his back';.





that's all well and good. but does that mean every generation has to follow suit? not necessarily, but there is a romanticized ideal of being able to accomplish life's trials on your own. i'm south east asian and i see no harm in adult age kids living with their parents. its not like they're all leeches or something, asian families with adult kids at home contribute to the family's income as much or more than the patriarch or matriarch does.





it's a simple case of culture clash. interesting, huh?
The US has a higher focus on individualism and the nuclear family rather than the extended family. The reason that older individuals still living with their parents is a cliche of a failure is that people often associate that particular aspect of their living arrangement with lack of a career and an unwillingness to contribute to the family in a meaningful (or sometimes even trivial) way.
I personally don't look down on people who are living with their parents when they are in their 20's... as long as they are trying to better themselves.





My husband, 2 kids and I are currently living with my parents. we are very grateful they let us live here. We both are going to school, and my husband works full time at nights. We are saving money to buy a house of our own while we finish up school. I don't know how we would do it (and at this pace) if it wasn't for my parents!