As a parent, how would you act if your son or daughters teacher was very rude to you? Do you think you would?

yell at the teacher? I know I would. I would definiately speak my mind to the teacher since many of them are so arrogant these days.As a parent, how would you act if your son or daughters teacher was very rude to you? Do you think you would?
I would be pissed off, but if it was a one time thing (every other time was quite positive) I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. However, if it was something very repetitive I would talk to the administration about it.





I think there's a big problem in society now. Some parents think that teachers are their servants, and some forget that each teacher generally has another 25 students in elementary school and 100 more in middle/high school and demand that things be done immediately and forget that teachers have lives too.





My mom is a middle school science teacher, and she's been teaching for 35 years (20 in elementary, the last 15 in her current position). There are some days when she will come home in tears because some parents give her so much crap. It's really sad. The parents that do this are generally the parents who let their kids do whatever the heck they please and whatnot. One student called my mom a b*tch to her face and when she requested a conference with the parents (as this was not the first time this student had done this), and the parents came in and said ';Chad (the kid's name), don't listen to her, she doesn't understand that you are just expressing yourself.'; Then they got up and left, and while they were walking out my mom began crying and then the mom said ';Oh look at that, the b*tch is sobby sobby. That'll teach you not to be so rude to my child!'; I was in the room at the time because I was repairing her computer (I'm a computer science major and I do a lot of systems analysis and repair) and it made me so mad, it took so much for me to not go out into the hall and slap that woman silly.As a parent, how would you act if your son or daughters teacher was very rude to you? Do you think you would?
Think about the treatment your child will receive when he/she goes back to school. Do you really think the teacher will be kind to your child if you yell at the teacher or ';have it out';?....nooooo. I promise you, this teacher will also pass on to next years teacher ';choice bits'; about you and your child. This will make next year with a new teacher difficult too. Try to behave in a mature manner, but definitely speak to the teacher about your concerns. Depending on the level of rudeness and regularity, you may wish to speak with the principal. If the principal makes excuses or doesn't address this issue to the teacher, you may need to speak with the superintendent of schools. There are a lot of good teachers out there, but unfortunately there are a lot of burned out jerks too. You are a role model to your child as how to handle these types of problems, so don't react...respond.
Don't yell; you're sinking to her level. What you need to do is first document what happened (when, where, what was said, and in response to what.) Write her a note or email stating (as non-emotionally as you can) that you're going to be letting the principal know. She deserves to know what is happening to her as a professional, even if her behavior doesn't indicate this. You are going to be the better person here.





Remember that teachers have good and bad days, too. That's no excuse for her behavior, but it's something to keep in mind. If you find many of the teachers in your school are 'arrogant', it is important to find a new school.





And finally, whatever you do, DO NOT DISCUSS THIS IN DETAIL IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD. What will happen is that your child, unknowingly (or knowingly, depending on the age), will begin to act with less respect toward the teacher. Which will, in turn, have the teacher at his/her wits' end with your child. Which will, in turn, create another nasty episode. You want school to be as positive an experience for your child as it can be. Unfortunately, your child's teacher isn't on the same page, but again, you can be the bigger person.
That depends, I KNOW I wouldn't yell at her because I am not that type of person that when someone is rude I would scream my lungs out ....that's just not me, BUT I would make my point without having to raise my voice...but I would absolutely tell her that she was rude and that she being a teacher she needs to hold her attitude, that If I approached her with respect I obviously expect to receive the same respect back. Usually people who are rude and gives you attitude when you act differently and point out her rudeness they tend to low down a little, I'm sure they realized how much of an @ss they are behaving.
My son's teacher has been rude to me. My only intention was to help my struggling son deal with some things at school, and her response was to shut me down. She was short with her answers and gave me the definite impression that she was done dealing with him, done trying.





My response was to take it to the principal. He and I talked for quite a while and he assured me that it would be dealt with. I checked back and found out she had been called into the office and talked to. She maintained her innocence in the situation, but he believed me and asked her to take a different tact with me next time. As a result, I got the back work I had asked for and I attempted to stay out of her way, knowing that she had given up on my son. That was 2 years ago and the school system hasn't changed much. I'm pulling him out and sending him to Christian school next year.





By the way, I am a teacher, also, although I just started. I would never dream of dealing with a parent in the way I was dealt with. No one should abuse their position by belittling someone else. How can a teacher expect the parents to be part of the education team for that child if they act that way toward them?
I don't suggest sinking to the teachers level. Keeping you cool and being the bigger person always makes a better impression. Speak your mind but be professional about it and definately call out the teacher on the rude behavior. Depending on the situation you may want to file a complaint with the school, however if you're yelling back you'll have a hard time getting anyone on your side.
Of course I would not yell at them. How is that mature and how will that possibly help the situation?





I would, however, ask to have a meeting with him/her as soon as possible. I'd let her know that there is no reason to be rude and we need to discuss whatever the problem is. I'd probably also request that the principal be there as well. In a civilized and controlled environment is where I would voice my dissatisfaction with his/her behavior.
I am answering this as a parent and a teacher.





No teacher (or anyone for that matter)should be rude to anyone, student or parent. There are a lot of other ways to get your point across.





To me the more important question is how does the teacher treat your child? Is the teacher rude to him or her? Then there is a real issue. Does the teacher treat your child poorly because of their negative feelings toward you? If the teacher is ok with your child then I'd let it go. You only see the teacher a few times during the school year.





If you feel like you need to address this issue, then have a meeting with the teacher and include the principal. Let the principal know before hand the reason that you are including him or her. Have the meeting about your child with the principal there. You will feel better because if the teacher is rude the principal can handle it, if the teacher is ok, then you had a successful meeting about your child, which was the goal.





Do you know any other parents that have students in the same class? How does the teacher treat them?





Teachers have a lot of stress, we work about 20 hours a week that we aren't paid for...most teachers are paid for classroom time only but spend a lot of extra time creating lessons, grading papers, etc on our own time. And no we can't do all the extra work during classtime.





Is your child participating positively in class, doing his/her homework? If not maybe the teacher feels like they are wasting their time in meetings with you.





I know it's awful to have the teacher be rude, but the real goal is to have your child be successful in school and learn what they need to be successful.
No, I would not yell. Especially if my child were present. This has happened to me and I handled the situation this way. I pointed my perception of her word. Then asked to reschedule the meeting. I then called the principal and reported the incident. When we met again her behavior was much different and remained that way the rest of the school year.
i am a teacher, and your best recourse is to notify the principal of his/her behavior. if nothing is done or you feel that the actions of the principal are not sufficient, contact your school's superintendant. yelling at him/her will only get you banned from school property or get the police called on you.
If it happened at an isolated incident,let it go. Maybe there was a stressful day or situations you are not aware of. Everyone gets short at times. If it were an ongoing thing (as in more than one time) I'd flat out ask if there was something I did to offend them to be so short in their response to me at the meeting. If I didn't get a sastisfactory answer from them I'd file a complaint with the building principal.
What does ';rude'; mean, specifically? If I knew what he/she had said or done, it would be easier to answer the question. I can tell you that yelling at the teacher will do NO ONE any good - not you, not the teacher, and certainly not your child.
If your an adult...........you meet it head on right at the point........find out what's going on.........and get it out in the open........';I would like to know the understanding of your presentation '; teacher........... Teacher's don't have the right to be rude to parents..................even if your kid is a brat....
I am certainly not afraid to voice my opinions or disagree with a teacher and I have done that in the past. However, I would never yell or argue. What would that solve?
I would not yell but I would tell the rude teacher that I would be informing the principal about the situation.
i would definantly report them to the principal


i wouldnt yell or argue or fight with them


because then i would be sinking all the way down to their level
Two wrongs don't make a right. They just make two wrongs instead of one.





I try to behave politely, or, at least, civilly, even when people are being rude to me.
No, I would not yell. My eyebrows would go up and my tone would get very cold and formal. If I thought it was necessary, I would start to take notes.
When that happened to me I was rude right back, in a louder voice than normal.
I'd ring the school and talk to the principal.
maybe you are just upset to hear the truth.
i've had that happen on many occasions. i try not to raise my voice or get rude back but it becomes very difficult. i am stressed to the max and will be so glad when school is out for the summer. i have had many problems with the school my son attends(he's 6 by the way!).the child they discribe is not my son. i feel they exaggerate everything. they even wanted me to see a pediatrition..which i did...and behind my back asked if he could check for adhd!? i was having no part of it. i'm glad i opened the referal letter! i couldn't believe what they had wrote on it! after talking to the specialist..he told me there was no problem with my son..it was in the school!!! it's a constant battle for me. they stretch the truth and continue to not tell me things. if my child cries too much i'm told but if another child hits him i'm not notified and nothing is done. i watched my son play in the school playground one day (unknown to the teachers) and watched children pushing each other and jumping on each other to get one of the three baskets balls and nothing was said or done. my son was a little upset because he couldn't get a ball but he didn't push or shove no more than the rest when trying to get one. once he got a ball he was getting ready to throw it and there was a ball by his feet so he kicked it (not very hard) out of the way. all of a sudden a teacher was there and grabbed him by the two arms and put him in time out. she didn't speak to him or give him any warning...nothing! i think the teacher should have given him a warning first.even though i didn't see him doing anything wrong ! i got a letter that evening stating he was being physically aggressive on the playground!!ugh! it boils my blood! i even tried to talk to the principal...to no avail. all the faculty are gonna band together! as far as i'm concerned i wish i could homeschool me son. as a parent i feel i have no rights! the school faculty can get away with anything.they don't have to tell you anything about what goes on in school if they don't want to. they constantly avoid me in hopes i'll just forget!! i won't!! but i think it stinks that they can do as they see fit with our kids and we don't have many rights. i mean...if you have your child in daycare..and something happens...they HAVE to tell you. if they don't and you find out you can charge the daycare. it's so much more difficult when it comes to school. they have all the rights and you have jack s**t! anyhow...i know it's hard but there's not much you can do.if i come off rude or yell at them that would just give them bullets for their guns! school sucked when i was a child going there and it still sucks when i'm a parent!! i hope to god no-one is going through what i am!! i have lost all respect for the school system and feel i will never gain it back!
cuss dat bit*h out.